Love has been a favourite subject of poets and artists for centuries. Tender songs about “why God created you” touch the heart, and Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet is considered one of the greatest plays ever written. Perhaps this is why many people sincerely believe that God has already created a specific spouse for each of us in advance.
But Scripture offers no support for this idea. On the contrary, there is much evidence that we are to seek and find the one we love ourselves. That is exactly why this Christian dating site was created. Sitting by the window and dreaming that God will simply “send” your other half can last a lifetime.
Biblical examples
Without doubt, everyone who visits a Christian dating site knows that from the beginning, as recorded in Genesis, God created man and woman to continue His creation, that they might unite in love and continue the human race — and Adam was the only one who woke to see an ideal beloved beside him. God truly created Eve for him and for no one else. But after that, the Bible says: “Abraham took a wife”, “Judah took a wife”, and so on. There is no biblical example of someone waiting passively for the Creator to “send someone suitable”. Rather, men seek and find wives themselves.
Yes, there is Joseph, to whom the Lord showed whom to marry. But this happened because at that moment it served God’s wider plan, far beyond one person’s private happiness. It was an exception, not the norm. And notice: Joseph was already betrothed to Mary. They met and loved one another before God chose to speak to them.
God gave us choice
So the idea that we cannot decide about marriage without direct intervention from God is mistaken. We are free, and ultimately we make our own decisions. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” Bible, 5:31. Marriage is the decision of mature people — a man and a woman able to build a family independent in both finances and moral responsibility.
Christian dating helps people build families. God loves diversity: He created each of us differently, even down to our fingerprints, and left the choice of a life partner to us. He gives us joy, wisdom and courage so we can make this most important decision in life. It does not matter whether someone is tall or short, slim or heavy, brown-eyed or blue-eyed. What matters is this: physical attraction must never take priority over spiritual and emotional relationship; only true love leads to a strong marriage.