Having sex before marriage has become almost “fashionable”. Many believe there is nothing wrong with it — yes, the Bible condemns adultery and sexual immorality, but does sex with one beloved person really count as sin? Here are three myths that surround such relationships.
Myth No. 1: Living together is the best way to test compatibility
Some couples believe they must test their compatibility before marriage. Yet statistics show that sex without commitment increases the likelihood of an early breakup. As a rule, such relationships end quite quickly — because people can effectively avoid real accountability to the person they share a bed with.
Myth No. 2: Being lovers keeps feelings “sharp”
Some fear that shared obligations and responsibility will kill romance and that “the boat of love will crash against daily routine”. In practice, however, people in “free” relationships often break up at the slightest conflict — because nothing firmly binds them, and parting seems easier than showing understanding, patience and overcoming difficulties together.
Myth No. 3: Sex is the first step towards marriage
Some women believe that sex with someone they are in love with is a first step to marriage. But numerous studies show that men often enter premarital sexual relationships simply because it is “convenient”.
Sex without marriage is not an equal substitute for true marital relationship; it often leads to pain, hurt and disappointment. If people listened more closely to Scripture, there would be far fewer sexually transmitted diseases, abortions, unmarried mothers and unwanted pregnancies. As the Apostle Paul says: “Each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.” Those who choose Christian dating should not forget this.
God’s love is unconditional, and spouses’ love for God means two people seeking to live by His guidance — supporting, protecting and remaining faithful to one another. “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality” First Epistle of the Apostle Paul 4:3–5
Only in a real family can each person fully unfold as who they are. Whoever loves the Lord will strive to be good, honest and faithful, to value relationships, and to preserve love throughout life. And our Christian dating site will help you find that love.