Every truly Christian dating site is created to help people find a faithful life partner and build a strong, happy family. That is why people here often ask themselves: “Is this really the right person? Is it worth investing my time, energy and emotions?”
How do we face the truth?
The first sign that someone is not right for you is constant criticism — their ongoing need to judge you. If at this stage you still cannot be yourself around them, the relationship is unlikely to become healthy later.
If a person shows no emotional response for several weeks after meeting, that also says a lot. No one is obliged to declare eternal love three minutes after a first meeting, but genuine, strong feelings do show themselves outwardly.
If someone believes they have the right to isolate you from friends or parents, this is another serious reason not to let that person deeper into your life. Attempts to control, manipulate and provoke jealousy are not signs of love. They are warning bells that the person wants to possess another person like an object.
It is unacceptable when someone lies in order to impress you, or for any other reason. Trust is the highest value in family relationships, and where lies are present, God’s blessing should not be expected, because “All wrongdoing is sin...” (1 John 5:17).
If a person is so “busy” that they have no time for a relationship, remember: someone who is truly interested always finds time.
Tenderness warms the heart — where it is absent, things eventually collapse. If you feel emotional coldness from someone who claims to want to be your spouse, do not assume this will change with time — most likely it will continue.
Think and feel
Do not invest more effort in a new relationship than the person moving towards you is willing to invest.
A Christian dating site is an online space where thoughtful and sensitive men and women meet — people who hold high standards not only for others, but first of all for themselves. Their goal is healthy, joyful relationships, and Christian dating can lead to exactly that.
But to build such a relationship, we must first believe that we are worthy of true love and learn to wait for it, rather than rushing into a relationship with the first person we meet, who is often not right for us at all.
People come into our lives and leave them, but God always remains.
“Let all that you do be done in love” (1 Cor. 16:14)